The past couple of weeks has been bitter-sweet. I was recently offered a position in Atlanta, GA that was an offer that I could not pass up. I have struggled with numerous situations over the past year. Between a child custody case, my income, and my living situation, it was finally time for a change. But I needed to take chances. I have always been the kind of person who has been afraid of the “what if’s”. And it has always taken me down with horrible outcomes. This time, it was different. I have never moved out of state without either one of my parents living there so moving to Atlanta was a huge “big girl” step for me. This was something that I absolutely knew I had to do. I’m not sad nor am I happy about the move because at the same time I feel as if I’m leaving everything behind. But that’s where my “what if’s” happen. I started thinking for a few days that if I keep worrying about the “what if’s”, I’m never going to change. I will never get out of the situations that I’m in. Especially if this move means opportunity for both my son and myself.
The “What If’s”
Yes! Finally, I got over the “What If’s” but that doesn’t mean that I still think about it now and then. It still bothers me to no-end. But! If I continue wondering about “what if… I don’t like my new job?” and I miss out on the great opportunity of more income. Which is something that I really could use. Yes, Atlanta’s pricing is slightly higher than Nashville, BUT I’m still making a lot more money than what I’m getting. I was so used to my work family. I truly adore them. They are all men and women of God and have shown nothing but, compassion and love to me. Really, just being afraid that no one can really compare. Thus, my new work family will be as admirable as they are. It’s taking those chances. So we can’t just keep looking at the “What If’s”. Atlanta has so much opportunity for everyone. I was so afraid when I went to court that they weren’t going to come down to an agreement. I worried endlessly, all to be on the stand and tell them the truth. Even though there was so much more to it, I neglected my mental thoughts because of the “What If’s”. Really, there isn’t a reason for it. No reason to stress and worry yourself over something you can not control. Especially, if you already antagonized yourself a plan for either option. So you’re giving yourself those “What If’s” an answer. Ease your mind a little and let go of it. Because with the negative mindset, you will stay where you’re at. Success comes with chances.
Just Do IT!
I’ve always been this person where I have to contemplate on the situation before I come up with whether or not I’m going to do it. I have never been that person to climb the cliff and go cliff diving. I was always afraid. After realizing that I wanted so much more out of mine and my son’s life that, I needed to just go for it. I’ve always enjoyed writing and I’ve always enjoyed photography. I had always given up a lot and put off all the things I loved doing. Because I was always afraid. Afraid of the outcome and never just allowing me to do it for myself. So finally, I did it. I stepped out of my box. A little step at a time and I’m still building. I researched all the valuable content to write about and I started up my blog. I started out with my dinky Samsung Note 5 camera quality and I just made my first purchase of my new Sony A6000. I contemplated for weeks whether or not if this is what I wanted to do. But you know what!? I did it. And I’m glad that I did. Or else I would be sitting here crying over why I didn’t get a new camera for myself and putting off my dreams of success. Just do it! If it means that much to you for you to succeed in life. Then go for it. It’s all about chances.
What happens when we don’t take chances.
We fall in regret. Sometimes, more than we expect. We become in a constant questioning of “What If’s”. We continue on with our regular 9-5 job and just hoping that everything will plan out the way we thought it was. Constantly wondering how your life would have been if you would have just taken that leap. Next thing you know, 10 years down the line and you’re contemplating the same thoughts you had on whether or not you should just go for it again. This time, actually doing it.
Listening to others will ruin your chances for success
It’s time to just stop questioning, and actually, start doing. Stop asking yourself if this is something that you should do when you know you already NEED to be doing it. If we don’t take these leaps in life we will never be where we want to be. Stop being like everyone else and be you. Do what you think is best for you. If we continue to let others dictate our life we will never be our own person and never land that point of success in our lives. Live your life the way you plan to and don’t let anyone tell you, you can’t do it. Because you can. It’s those who tell us that we can’t, be the reason that we CAN. I’ve seen so many people be where they don’t want to be in life because they’re caught up in what other’s tell them. That their ideas are stupid and that they themselves are lame for even thinking that they can. Don’t let other people tell you that you can’t do something. Just do it. And it’s probably one of the best decisions I’ve made to listen to myself in the 26 years of my life. Because I’ve now been given an opportunity to actually LIVE. Live the way I am supposed to.
This has to be one of the greatest decisions I’ve made for me and my son. The thing about it, is my motive is only to be successful in the end. I wouldn’t have it any other way. That should be the only way that it should ever be. I’m excited for what Atlanta has to offer for us. If you’ve come across some tough decisions in your life drop a few lines below, we’d love to hear about your success story.